As I sit here today listening to my children happily clean up puzzles I am so glad that I am a perfect parent.
I know that my child will never be dragged off by an alligator or fall in a gorilla enclosure because I never mess up. Life never happens to me and I am on safety vigil for my kids 110% of the time to make sure nothing awful happens to them.
HA HA HA!!
I can’t even type that with a straight face. I am on safety vigil all the time, probably too much. I am sure many of my kid’s friends think I am a bit crazy and over protective. I am also not stupid or naive. I know that I can not protect my kids from life and crazy circumstances. I hope and pray that nothing truly awful ever happens but I know it can, there is always a chance it will.
Kids are unpredictable and so is life. All it takes is one second for tragedy to strike and it doesn’t even have to be a moment of neglect.
This past weekend a toddler went down a pool slide and had to be rescued during my kids swim meet. Were the parents being negligent? No. Life happened. A few years ago a child ran into the street to get a ball and got hit by a car and died. Are the parents awful and negligent? Should they have fenced the front yard too? Or maybe banned playing with balls?
Social media has made it so we know about every mistake anyone makes. And then we feel the need to comment on it and more often than not we comment in a horribly judgemental way.
As a mom my heart skips a beat every time I read these horror stories and then I feel awful. So very awful for that family. I pray for them and I hope they can forgive themselves and eventually heal.
I think of how hard I would be on myself if I was in there shoes. No one could hate me more that I would hate myself.
Next time you hear of a tragedy involving a child instead of immediately taking to the internet to criticize the parents think… what if that was my child? What if that was my niece or nephew? And then think about your response because I guarantee it will change.
There is enough hate and judgement already, just turn on the news to find it.
How about instead we add some more compassion and empathy to a world that sorely needs it.
I am praying for all the moms and dads out there, let’s support each other and have less judgement. It’s easy to say what you would do when you have never been in that situation.